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Have you ever had such a desire to do something that you could literally visualize the amazing end result?

The problem… Everything within you wanted to do that thing, but something kept you from it.Fear can be a paralyzing foe, which is why it's so important that we learn to overcome the fear keeping us from accomplishing our goals! I used to be afraid to do anything in life until I learned these 4 tips... #compassmylife #setgoals

In order to get to that end result, you would have to step outside of your comfort zone, and that means facing the fear keeping you from accomplishing your goals.

Don’t worry, I get it. Fear can be a paralyzing foe.

In fact, I used to live in constant fear of just about everything, but especially of trying new things and going after what I wanted.

It was the whole, “stepping outside my comfort zone” that had me stuck. Chances are, it’s holding you back too.

There are so many things we can be afraid of… The fear of failing, the fear of being embarrassed if something didn’t turn out the way we said we wanted it to (which btw is totally different than the fear of failure), the fear of actually accomplishing the thing we said we wanted to and then not knowing what to do next, and the fear of being in a situation we were originally afraid of.

The list goes on and it all has one thing in common; it holds us back.

I used to live my life this way. I hated it, and yet, I couldn’t get past it.

As a teenager, I used to watch that movie with Hilary Duff, The Cinderella Story. It’s on my list of “classic” go-tos nowadays but I used to watch this movie over and over.

If you haven’t seen it, it’s pretty much your classic Cinderella story with a modern twist. Duff’s character is ruled by a nasty step-mom she never stands up to and somewhere along the way, she decides to take life into her own hands and face the fear in her way of freedom.

I think as a teenager I watched this movie so much because it spoke to me. I didn’t realize it then, but, looking back, I really appreciated the message it sent.

After college, Josh and I got married and as it turns out, he’s the skydiving, rollercoaster loving, jump off a cliff type. The old saying holds true, as we are complete opposites.

Seriously though, as a kid l was afraid to leave my front yard, but somehow I ended up with this guy.

We’ve managed to find a middle ground in our daily activities, but being with him has certainly forced me to learn how to overcome fears.

In fact, it turns out that there’s a bit of a method to it.

As I have gotten older, learning these things have helped me overcome a lot of the fear keeping me from accomplishing my goals.

One that works almost every time for overcoming the fears that keep me from accomplishing things in life.

Today I wanted to share my method with you!

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How to Overcome the Fear Keeping You from Accomplishing Your Goals

1) Pinpoint the Root of Your Fear

At some point between high school and now, I realized that the majority of the time I was afraid of something, I didn’t even know what it was. Not truly.

I started asking myself, why am I afraid or nervous about this?

Often the reason was because of something that happened in the past or a time I was embarrassed doing something similar or the idea of being embarrassed now.

In fact, I found that personally, the fear of embarrassing myself was the leading thing that held me back from wanting to accomplish something.

Next time you want to do something but feel nervous, ask yourself why. Your answer may surprise you. Mine often surprised me.

2) Map Out What the Worst is That Will Happen

The second thing I started doing was asking myself and answering “what is the absolute worst thing that would happen if this didn’t go well was?”

Again, more often than not, I realized the answer was that I would be embarrassed… or was afraid I would lose money and it would be a waste… or I was concerned it wouldn’t be worth the effort.

The problem with all of these answers is that they are just excuses.

Why should I care if I embarrass myself in front of strangers I will never ever see again?

However, if you weigh the risk and it really isn’t going to be good, then you can rest easy knowing you’re making a wise decision.

These things and more are the kinds of things that would run through my mind when it came to overcoming fears that were in my way to an end goal.

 

3) Create a Plan to Overcome

Now that you have figured out why you are afraid and what the worst thing that will happen is, you can create a plan to work past those things.

Often times, just answering the first two questions is enough to give me the courage to take the leap. However, there are at times a few bigger things that I need a little extra push for.

This is when planning comes into play. I think about the obstacles that I have identified in the first two steps and work to break down those barriers.

I find the easiest way to do this is to set some easy goals and map out an action plan – an easy to follow guide, of sorts to help you.

 

4)  Baby Steps to Accomplishing Your Goals

I think it’s important to note that just because you have identified the root cause of your fears, doesn’t always mean that it will disperse your fear.

Sometimes there are just really big things in our lives that feel so real and scary and that’s just how it is.

I was dealing with this once and I called my mom and I’ll never forget that conversation. I asked her what to do if I was afraid and she said the simplest words to me that rang through me like a clanging cymbal. She said, “then you do it afraid”.

Maybe that doesn’t resonate with you as it did with me, but it was an awakening phrase for me.

I had literally never considered doing something that I was afraid of. I had always just given up. If I started to feel nervous, I would just turn around and leave that thing behind. Never reaching for my goals.

Sometimes it was over the littlest things too. One time in summer camp, I managed to climb to the top of the zip line but when I got to the top, the idea of actually zipping down, scared me so much, they had to lower me back down the pole.

Talk about giving up… I would like to note, I overcame the fear in college and finally did it! Now, this seems silly, but that felt like a huge thing for me at the time.

Basically what I’m saying is, these things don’t even have to be major goals. I use this method for lots of little things too.

You don’t have to make some giant leap of faith to show that you have the courage to accomplishing your goals. Baby steps are perfectly acceptable!

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The point is not to shock yourself. It’s just to keep moving forward towards your goals. One baby step at a time…

If you are feeling like any of this has resonated with you and you are ready to start moving forward with your goals, then join our FREE exclusive resource library below! There’s a ton of free printables to help walk you through creating an action plan from start to finish!

Being able to write everything down and get things out of your head and onto paper can make a world of difference.

Do you have any fears keeping you from accomplishing your goals? Tell me about them in the comment box below!

How to Overcome the Fear Keeping You from Accomplishing Your Goals